Children Should Be Happy, But Some Of Them Aren’t. Let’s Help.

As part of my T-shirt campaign in support of YoungMinds, I’ve republished this post. I’d love you to take a few minutes to read it. 

Children are fun, children are silly, children are full of joy, children are always happy. Children run around without a care in the world.

That’s what we like to think anyway.

It’s too hard to think of them in any other way. Children are meant to live in a carefree world of imagination and games, discovery and adventure.

But what you don’t know is that boy who just passed you on the escalator, he may look like any other teenager, shopping with his mates on a Saturday. But he harms himself in his room, when his parents think he is studying for his exams.

It’s the only way he can feel real pain, the way he thinks he deserves to feel pain.

And the child waiting at the ice-cream van clutching her mother’s hand? She found it hard to walk down the stairs today. Those once powerful legs that used to charge around the hockey pitch are so weak now, because she often doesn’t have the energy to get out of bed.

This trip has taken every ounce of her mother’s persuasion to get her to face the outside world. And all the time she is out, her young head is feverish with panic.

What about that twelve year old boy, kicking his ball in the park? He feels utterly alone. He has not made friends at his secondary school. He doesn’t like sport and gets teased for his love of poetry and pottery.

Nasty comments have been posted on his Instagram page. He doesn’t know where to turn and his head is full of despair and desperation. What is the point in him anyway? Maybe the other kids at school are right…

That little girl sitting on the bench with her mum, was once so outgoing and bubbly. She used to love nothing more than to surround herself with her friends. Her mother now scolds herself for ever telling her child to keep the noise down, for getting irritated by the shrieks of laughter from behind her bedroom door.

How she wishes she could hear those shrieks of laughter now. Her daughter refuses to see anyone. Not even her best friend. The once bubbly girl is a shell of her former self. She can’t be the person she once was for those friends, the person she thinks she should be for them. Her mum can tell her again and again that they won’t care, they just want to see her. But she is ten. And she does care.

The sweet child who sits with her daddy in the café, drinking a milkshake? Most evenings she thrashes around and yells furiously that she can’t go on like this, she can’t take another day feeling this way. She sees no reason to live. And nobody understands. Why can’t her parents fix this? They are meant to fix everything.

Eventually she crashes with exhaustion. Her body heaving with sobs. Collapsing into her mother, who rocks her gently as she whispers in her ear that everything will be alright.

There is, thankfully, more talk about mental health these days but talking doesn’t hold much meaning to these children. Nothing holds much meaning to them right now. They are struggling to see the point in much of the world around them.

So, what can we actually do?

As friends, teachers, sisters, brothers, cousins, grandparents, we can show kindness and warmth.

As parents, we can hold them when they let us. Tell them it will be OK, they will get there and the dark clouds will part.

The sunshine is forever there, above those clouds. They just can’t see it yet. But one day, it will gleam through again and dazzle them with its light and hope, because there is hope.

We just need to help them catch a glimpse of it.

And to help young people catch a glimpse of that hope, please support my T-shirt campaign with 100% profit going to YoungMinds who are #FightingFor a new era where mental health support is available to every young person who reaches out.

The whole ethos behind the S.H.I.T. campaign is to let young people know that #itsoktofeelshit. It really, really is, but it’s a whole lot more ok if you don’t feel alone. 

So grab yourself a T-shirt here and help young voices be heard. 

Thank you,

Susie x

 

 

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4 Comments

  1. Rachel Mitchell
    November 29, 2018 / 10:12 am

    you are doing amazing things here Susie Weaver. So proud.

  2. December 5, 2018 / 11:11 am

    Susie, this is an amazing and beautiful post. SO happy to read this here in #blogcrush and very proud of the work you are doing. Mental health is so very improtant to understand and de-stigmatise. xoxo #blogcrush xoxo

  3. Lucy At Home
    December 6, 2018 / 10:43 am

    I’ve seen this campaign via Honest Mum so it’ great to read about it first hand. Mental Health is important, no matter what your age, and it’s great that you are raising awareness of the problems and young children and teens face. Someone also supported you by adding this post to the BlogCrush linky to raise awareness that little bit further. #blogcrush

  4. December 9, 2018 / 1:22 pm

    You’ve hit the nail on the head with this one Susie – and I love it. Do you know, I always say to my kids that above the clouds the sun carries on shining (my daughter didn’t know that!), but it’s nice to look on the bright, positive side of life and teach them to acknowledge their feelings and thoughts because they are very real. And what’s trivial to us adults can mean the whole world to them. Great post! x

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