International Women’s Day – My Female Friendships Rock

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I love this time in my life. Yes, we all berate the muffin top, saggy boobs and not being able to find much in Topshop these days, but, I love my life.

There are various reasons for this. My three amazing children being a monumental one, Mr S.H.I.T. being another, having a roof over our heads and food in the fridge (perhaps only a mouldy old cucumber and some Dairylea Dunkers at times, but there’s always food).

And family who love us.

But another reason I love my life is because of the women in it. My friends. My tribe.

They surround me and they care. They really, really care.

We support each other, through the good shit and the not so good shit that life presents – as this blog is all about.

But I can always count on these women being there regardless, celebrating the high, and holding each other up through the lows.

However it’s not until now, in my glorious middle ages, that I feel the consistent glow of these deep female friendships. The unflinching security. There are no conditions, no pressures, no need to fit in. Just women who genuinely want you in their lives, for being you.

Childhood is blissfully ignorant. Gender doesn’t matter, colour doesn’t matter, size doesn’t matter. Friends are anyone who will play with you. It’s so blissfully pure and simple.

But the tweens and teens kick in, and sadly some things do start to matter to many girls.

Conforming is key. God forbid if you’re unique and stand out from the crowd. The ‘cool’ cliques start to emerge and division rears its ugly head. Whispering, ostracising, bitching, the silent treatment, peer pressure, fighting over boys and who’s wearing the ‘right’ gear.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all bad, these are fun and exciting times too. The world is your oyster after all. You just need the supportive girls who want to share it with you. And they will be there. There will always be a few though, who want to take all the oysters for themselves, trampling on you along the way.

In our 20’s, we’re all still working out who we are and where we’re going. Some fly ahead in careers, others get lost along the way. There’s competition and questioning. Why can’t I find a job? Are they really pleased about my promotion? Why did she flirt with my boyfriend all night? What kind of friend would say that about me behind my back?

Again, the supportive young women will be there, you just need to hold on to them.

The 30’s are a mixed bag with some finding love and settling down. Some going it alone and choosing a different path. Some having children and staying at home. Some having children and returning to work. As women we have tough choices to make.

But then the dust seems to settle, in a relieved little pile.  Respect and appreciation for each other’s different choices come into play. Some are married, some single, some divorced. Career women, part-time workers, stay at home mums – there’s nothing more to prove.

New friendships are formed and some old ones float away. The important ones stick.

And here I am now. My friends enrich my life every step of the way. There’s no judging, no bitching, nothing but solidarity and respect. Rejoicing at the triumphs, and picking each other up through the bleak times.

We can all be who we truly are because, as my wonderful mum once said to me, we are women, we are enough.

So, on this International Women’s Day, I dedicate this to my mum, the woman I hold most dear to my heart, my two amazing daughters who will conquer the world, and all the outstanding women that I am lucky enough to call my friends. You know who you are.

We got this ladies.

As featured in Huffington Post. 

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25 Comments

  1. March 8, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    I’m reading this with tears in my eyes, happy tears though, and tears of celebration of my wonderful daughter, daughter in law and five utterly fantastic granddaughters! To the lads in the family, I love you too.
    Love and hugs,
    Mum xx

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 7:39 am

      That’s the best comment ever from the woman who matters the most. And it’s because of you we are all strong, bright, resilient, loving women. Thank you Mum xxxxxxxxxxxxx

  2. thesingleswan
    March 8, 2017 / 11:20 pm

    Love this post. I totally agree with your point that important friendships stick. I have friends that I see very rarely, but when we do catch up, it is as though we have seen each other every day for the last twenty years. Happy International Women’s Day. Pen x #brillblogposts

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 7:35 am

      Thanks Pen, I love those friendships that are so strong you just pick up again as if you saw them yesterday, even if it’s been years. Thx for your comment #brillblogposts

  3. March 9, 2017 / 10:03 am

    I love this post, so beautifully written and so very true. The females in my life are so special, they are the ones who have my back, keep me going and remind me of what’s important. Lovely post. #brilliantblogposts

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 11:25 pm

      Thanks for this gorgeous comment. I really feel now that my female friendships are rock solid and hopefully I will have them for the rest of my life. Thx for reading #brilliantblogposts

  4. March 9, 2017 / 11:11 am

    So true about the different stages of being a girl/woman, I’d never be a teenager again for any money! #StayClassyMama

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 11:24 pm

      Here, here! I feel for my girls having all that teenage angst ahead of them. Love being this age and being happy in my own skin, and with encouraging, supportive mates around me. Thx for commenting #stayclassymama

  5. March 9, 2017 / 8:56 pm

    I was practically hugging the screen as I read this, and even more so when I read (what I assume is) your Mums comment… Maintaining friendships from the past isn’t easy as a Mum, but the friendships that get you through become all the more spesh.
    Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub xx

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 11:22 pm

      Thanks for reading and commenting x

  6. March 9, 2017 / 10:14 pm

    Yes to this lovely. I do have a massive love & appreciation for my friends now more than ever. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 11:21 pm

      Friends in our middle ages are really there for all the right reasons aren’t they, through thick and thin? Thx for the comment x #blogginggoodtime

  7. Vanessa
    March 10, 2017 / 6:43 am

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 12, 2017 / 8:16 pm

      You obviously feature highly my lovely V xxxx

  8. March 11, 2017 / 7:48 pm

    Susie am so with you on this. I wrote a post about the value of my female friends in the lead up to my 50th. Life changes for us all but without my girlies around me I wouldn’t be half the person I am today! Cheers! #ablogginggoodtime

  9. March 12, 2017 / 10:59 pm

    We are enough !!! We rock. We run the world. Thanks for such an uplifting post #Postsfromtheheart

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 13, 2017 / 10:50 am

      Absolutely – we do rock! Thanks for commenting #postsfromtheheart

  10. Mom Of Two Little Girls
    March 13, 2017 / 12:22 pm

    Such a lovely uplifting post. So many reminders of things to be thankful for.
    #marvmondays

  11. March 15, 2017 / 9:46 pm

    What a lovely post – we do indeed become who we are because of the people around us. Beautiful beautiful sentiment. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 15, 2017 / 10:59 pm

      Thanks El – I just feel so secure in my friendships now, and am very lucky to have them. Thx for hosting and commenting #bigpinklink x

  12. March 16, 2017 / 12:26 am

    That’s lovely. Very well written. Your mom was right. We are enough. Every one of us. #bigpinklink

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 16, 2017 / 9:14 pm

      We are totally enough, and even better than enough. Thx for reading and commenting x #bigpinklink

  13. Vanity And Me Style
    April 9, 2017 / 4:06 pm

    Aw, I really enjoyed reading this. Isn’t it great to feel so good and not worry what others think? I have gained so much more confidence as I have grown older. And the friends, well by now they know us inside out don’t they? xx
    http://www.vanityandmestyle.com

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      April 13, 2017 / 9:08 pm

      Absolutely, our friends now accept us for the people we are, not what we think we should be. It’s so refreshing just being totally myself and not worrying what anyone thinks. Hard to realise it will be like that at times when you’re younger isn’t it, and you don’t have that inner-confidence. Thx for reading and commenting x

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