Has Trump Helped Turn the Tide For Women’s Equality?

Has Trump Helped Turn The Tide For Women's Equality?

Donald Trump is not an American president who will be easily forgotten. There are many reasons why, and most of them aren’t exactly positive.

Insulting the entire continent of Africa by describing Haiti and unspecified African nations as shitholes, is possibly up there as one of his most hideously memorable moments to date.

But perhaps he has, inadvertently, done a greater good for the world in his short time in the White House.

Stay with me here.

Yes, he appears to shoot off his mouth like a petulant child (one addicted to Twitter) without thinking. Yes, he’s the first reality star to enter the White House. Yes, he has no political experience whatsoever. Yes, he frequently describes global warming as ‘a hoax.’ And yes, he has been heard openly boasting about sexually assaulting women in the infamous “Access Hollywood” tapes.

But perhaps it’s this last fact – that the actual President of the United States of America, himself, has been known to degrade and demean women – that a worldwide intolerance to such disgusting behaviour has arisen.

Now this is a leader who is meant to uphold strong moral values. One who, in these modern times, we expect to wholeheartedly believe in equality. Correction, not just believe, but vehemently fight for. And above all, one who is in the highest position of power to make a change, to give the people hope.

So when this very same leader was heard making vulgar comments about women, the world would be forgiven for giving up all hope that this behaviour will ever cease.

But instead, the tide began to turn. The cards were all on the table, so to speak.

If even the most powerful man in the world was at it, we could all finally talk openly about the sexual harassment and abuse which women have been enduring in every corner of the planet, in every kind of workplace, from every walk of life, for years and years.

We’ve all been at the receiving end of it in some way or other, some sadly more harshly than others.

I spent years in a job having my boobs talked to by my boss. Not my face, or most importantly my intelligence – unless my brains had mysteriously transferred themselves to my chest without me realising it – but my boobs. And it wasn’t that my boobs were particularly special. Every female in the office (of which there weren’t many) was forced to question whether their breasts were far more fascinating than the valuable opinions they had to offer.

We’ve all been in jobs where we’ve quickly realised that only the females are being asked to do the menial tasks, the promotion you were going for has gone to your male colleague when everyone knows you’re the better candidate, and if you don’t flirt back with the boss then there’s no chance on earth you’re ever going to get on.

I know friends who have had their bottoms patted on a daily basis, their opinions disregarded after they’ve made it clear that they’re not interested in going for ‘a drink after work’, and endured lewd remarks made towards them. And there are, of course, sadly many far worse stories.

We’ve all been expected to laugh it off and not take it all so seriously. Never mind that it makes you feel like a second class citizen, if you dared risk your career by bravely speaking up, it was highly likely you’d be labelled a trouble maker.

Most men abhor this behaviour too. However, some small-minded ones feel they have the God-given right to use their position of ‘power’ on the ‘lesser sex,’ as we are seen through their tiny eyes.

But along with Trump’s sexist behaviour, this last year has also seen high profile cases such as that of Bill Cosby, where multiple women have brought charges of sexual assault against him.

Perhaps this has given women the strength to finally speak out, knowing that at last they will be heard and taken seriously. They can speak their truth without fearing their reputations and careers will be left in tatters.

So, we can live in hope that by the time our girls are trying to forge their way in life, in whatever paths they choose to follow, they will not have to accept that they are at the mercy of ‘powerful’ men just because they have a different anatomy.

They will never have to put up with the discomfort of having that anatomy scrutinised, or knowing that they will have to fight twice as hard to be taken seriously unless they are willing to go for those ‘drinks after work.’

And as for the US leader, Mr Donald Trump, we can be thankful that his disparaging remarks about women have opened up a conversation that gives us hope that the tide will turn. The behaviour of these brutally powerful men will no longer be tolerated.

Their time is up.

As Oprah says, ‘when that new day finally dawns, it will be because of a lot of magnificent women and some pretty phenomenal men, fighting hard to make sure they become the leaders who take us to the time when nobody ever has to say “Me too” again.’

As featured in Huffington Post. 

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26 Comments

  1. January 15, 2018 / 5:45 pm

    What a great way to look at it. I sometimes think the ways of the world are a bit like a pendulum, I’m hoping we’ve hit that far point and will swinging back to better things soon.

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 16, 2018 / 9:57 am

      I really hope so too – it’s been going on since the beginning of time and it’s certainly time for it to stop. I’m hoping that our girls will not know a world when men take advantage of them, just for being female, wouldn’t that be wonderful? Thanks for reading and commenting x

      • January 16, 2018 / 12:47 pm

        That would be wonderful indeed! And as Mum to a boy I hope I can in still good values and raise him to be respectful and not prejudiced. We can but try.

        • Susie | So Happy In Town
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          January 18, 2018 / 9:50 pm

          I have a boy too and it’s so important to instil those good values in them too and treat them to respect everyone and treat them in the same way, irrespective of their gender. Thanks for commenting x

  2. January 16, 2018 / 10:54 am

    It’s a shame that really bad events have to happen before there is a drive a change but it definitely looks like it is now going in the right direction #globalblogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 16, 2018 / 11:04 am

      Hopefully this old skool appalling attitude towards women that some men have will no longer be tolerated. Thanks for commenting x

  3. January 18, 2018 / 1:12 pm

    I hadn’t thought of it this way but you’re right. In his attempt to demean women and act like women are no more worthy of respect than a mule, his actions have caused the opposite reaction from the general public. I hope this “awakening” continues as more and more people see just how wrong inequality is. Love this post! #globalblogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 18, 2018 / 9:48 pm

      Let’s really hope so – wouldn’t it be wonderful if our girls didn’t have to feel they had to prove themselves so much more than their male peers, and didn’t have to feel wary of small men with too much power. Thanks for reading and commenting xx

  4. January 18, 2018 / 9:28 pm

    Every cloud has a silver lining…even when that cloud is Donald Trump, right? Let’s hope his time in office does more good than harm, but I’m not placing any bets on that one! You are right though – sometimes it takes to get to rock bottom to say enough is enough.
    Thanks for linking to #coolmumclub

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 18, 2018 / 9:46 pm

      Must be some positives to come out of his time as President…let’s hope it’s this. Thanks for reading and hosting #coolmumclub xxxx

  5. January 19, 2018 / 12:09 am

    I agree, there are definitely some positives out of the current political mess and we should embrace them. Thanks for joining us on #GlobalBlogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 19, 2018 / 7:54 am

      You’re living them over there Heather – hope you can see more positives that will come of it all. Thanks for hosting and reading xx

      • January 19, 2018 / 10:43 am

        Me too! As much as the news wants to focus on the negatives, I stay on the positive. It’s the only way to survive life with a sense of humor.

  6. January 19, 2018 / 12:49 pm

    Thought provoking indeed. Whenever I think of Trump a song by my favourite artist comes to mind (I think it was written about Bush but the cap still fits). It is by P!nk and is called Dr Mr President. The lyrics are so powerful. The jury is out on him but then that is easy for me to say from across the pond. Other than his atrocious decisions on global warming and his threats to use nuclear bombs he doesn’t impact my day to day life (sarcasm). Let’s hope he is a force for good. Great post by the way. #COOLMUMCLUB

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 19, 2018 / 3:49 pm

      We can but hope he is a force for good, even if unintentionally! Thanks for reading and commenting x

  7. January 19, 2018 / 1:15 pm

    I think it’s great that the one good thing that has come from all of this is that it has opened up honest discussion about all of this out there in the public domain. Every cloud as they say. Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xoxo

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 19, 2018 / 3:49 pm

      Every cloud indeed…here’s hoping anyway. Thanks for hosting lovely and commenting x

  8. January 19, 2018 / 3:38 pm

    Hey Susie, great to have you back at #tweensteensbeyond. We’ve missed you! I resonate with the ‘talk to the boobs comment’. Always wanted to say ‘If you talk to them for long enough, they may answer’!!!! Yes, who knows. Things have a way of working themselves unintentionally sometimes don’t they!

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 19, 2018 / 3:48 pm

      I’ve missed you too! I wish I’d thought of that line, if you talk to them for long enough – that’s brilliant! Hopefully this is the start of a new age for women. Thx for hosting and reading xx

  9. January 19, 2018 / 5:06 pm

    right after the election, when I was desperately trying to find a silver lining, I said that perhaps the backlash against the things he did and stood for would be great enough to inspire some real change. I would have liked to gotten there without having to endure this idiot, but hopefully he will one day become a cautionary tale and an example of what not to be like #blogginggoodtime

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      Author
      January 20, 2018 / 3:06 pm

      Hope so too – hopefully he’ll go down in history books as how not to lead a country. Thanks for reading.

  10. January 20, 2018 / 1:11 pm

    I hadn’t thought of this angle before and I can follow your argument and very much hope that you are right. My concern is about the polarisation of opinion that is taking place at the moment, not just on the issue of equality for women but on political and racial issues at well. Historically, when this has happened things have not ended well. I worry that all sides are forming such entrenched opinions that conflict will be on-going and I do worry where it will end. Thanks so much for joining us at #TweensTeensBeyond

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 20, 2018 / 3:05 pm

      Good point – that is a worrying sign and as you say, such extreme views are being set from all opposing sides. Let’s hope equality for women is one that ends well. Thanks for hosting and reading x

  11. Rebecca
    January 20, 2018 / 4:23 pm

    An intelligent and thought provoking piece Mrs SHIT and an angle I had not considered. I worry though that a percentage of Trump’s core supporters may not take the same viewpoint.
    Important to keep on talking about this…

  12. mackenzieglanville
    January 24, 2018 / 12:01 pm

    Brilliant read, nice to see someone putting it out there about what we go through as women expected to live by a mans rules in the office, in public, in a bar, we are subjected all the time to inappropriate comments. As a female who was violently rapped and beaten I never want to see other women go through that, or feel they have no right to stand up to men who think it is there right to touch us, or make comments about our breasts whenever they feel like it. It is not a joke, it is degrading to think we can only feel pretty if a man wants to touch us or comment on out boobs! Sorry for the rant, well not sorry, but great post! #ablogginggoodtime Also I am not sure if you are aware that Catie from Spectrum mum will no longer be hosting with Katie and myself for a blogging good time. You can still link up as usual just through Katie or myself at reflectionsfromme.com, thanks love Mac

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
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      January 24, 2018 / 8:43 pm

      Please don’t be sorry for your rant – such a powerful comment Mac. You have obviously been through such an ordeal, something that nobody should ever have to go through and I can only imagine how you have had to rebuild your life after such terror. How dare any man think they can touch anyone without their consent – such weak, pathetic, cruel behaviour. Here’s hoping that women are finding the voice that they have not felt able to use before now. Thank you so much for taking the time to write back to this. I really appreciate it. xxxx

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