A Letter To My Daughter

Dear Daughter,

You are tucked up in bed dreaming of climbing trees and Troll movies. You are wrapped up in the soft blanket of your blessed childhood, and the world is your oyster.

While you are sleeping, I have been watching Michelle Obama’s impassioned speech about the right for women and girls to be respected, to be valued, to be given the opportunity for education and equal rights. She is the First Lady of America.

You may not have heard of her, but I’m sure you will in time. She is speaking out against men in this world who do not believe that women deserve the right to be treated as equals.

You see, people have been working hard for years and years to make sure that women and girls, just like you, are made to feel strong and empowered. They have been fighting for all girls in the world to be given the right to an education, the right to enter a profession, the right to work their way up and progress in whatever job they choose.

Sadly though, there are still those men in the world who do not respect females. Those who are selfish and greedy and think they can take what they want without a second thought for the feelings and dignity of others.

Think Vector from Despicable Me: a rich, spoilt brat and a show-off who gets what he wants. Or Hans from Frozen: a power-hungry, abusive creep who wants to take over the kingdom.

That is the kind of person Michelle Obama is talking about.

But luckily you, in your protected childhood, are not aware of any of this yet. In your world, boys and girls are of equal importance, and why wouldn’t it be so?

Boys are not seen as intellectually superior at your school. They are not given more attention by the teacher because it is presumed you girls will be taking some time out of your education further down the line. You do not get boys staring at you in a way that makes you wish your body was invisible. They are not given more house points than you just because of their anatomy.

Yes, some boys like football and cars, but then so do some girls. Some girls prefer skipping and dolls, but then so do some boys. Each individual makes their own choices and nobody is yet judged.

You are not hollered at by boys passing you in the playground, making you feel uncomfortable for being made the way you are. Instead, you all play happily together, shouting your opinions and emotions at the tops of your voices. There are no inhibitions, nobody telling you your voice is not worth hearing.

All the males in your life respect you. All the males in your life respect women. But you are lucky. Sadly, it is not like this for all girls your age in the world. Your world is a bubble.

I wish I could tell you the bubble will never pop. That nothing will ever change. But unfortunately I can’t.

In time, you will realise that there are men out there who will try to demean and belittle you, simply for being female, no matter how ludicrous that sounds.

They may leer at you, shout rude remarks at you in the street, and judge you on your looks. But always remember, their ignorant thoughts are meaningless to you.

You, my darling, deserve to be shown nothing but respect. And not for how your face appears, or the shape of your body, but for you being you. For your heart, your soul, your integrity, your strength.

I will always tell you, not how pretty you are, but how smart and strong you are. How valuable you are.

So sweet dreams my lovely girl. Keep dreaming your dreams, keep making your voice heard in the playground, keep working hard to reach your goals. And don’t ever let anyone tell you you can’t.

With All My Love,

Mummy.

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29 Comments

  1. February 3, 2017 / 11:28 pm

    Such a lovely post and one that resontates as the mother of a daughter and a son. Likewise, I will make sure our son is raised knowing that girls and boys/men and women are equals and that gender should never be a part of any equation in life and society. Great post, thanks for sharing it on #MarvMondays. Emily

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 4, 2017 / 9:10 am

      I just wish it was always as simple as it is in the school playground where gender really doesn’t matter. Thanks for the comment Emily.#marvmondays x

  2. February 20, 2017 / 11:48 am

    This this this!!! Yes! Just a brilliant piece of writing. This is the first time I’ve read one of your blogs I think and I just love it – sharing on twitter! #postsfromtheheart

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 20, 2017 / 4:29 pm

      Thx so much for the lovely comment. I’m a blogging newbie so it’s great that you enjoyed it. So important to let our girls know how awesome and valued they are. Thanks for the RT too! #postsfromtheheart xx

  3. February 20, 2017 / 1:12 pm

    Awesome post- loved it.

    From a mother of four tough females!

    #postsfromtheheart

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 20, 2017 / 4:26 pm

      Thx for reading and for the comment. Good to hear that girl power certainly reigns supreme in your house! #postsfromtheheart xx

  4. RaisieBay
    February 20, 2017 / 1:17 pm

    A lovely post and views we should all share with our daughters x
    #PostsFromTheHeart

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 20, 2017 / 4:24 pm

      Thx for reading and for the comment. Our girls are worth so much. #PostsFromTheHeart xx

  5. February 24, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    I adore this. I am a mum to a little girl who is much more at home playing with boys and would prefer to get muddy and dig for worms that play with dolls. I think that she is incredible, and it terrifies me to think that she will ever be judged any differently for being a girl or a women. This is so beautifully written and when she is old enough I want to share it with her. Thanks for linking up with #DreamTeam x

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 25, 2017 / 3:58 pm

      Thank you for such a lovely comment. Your little girl sounds awesome and why shouldn’t our girls play with worms and get muddy, just as little boys should be able to play with dolls and my little ponies. We are all unique. I read my letter to my two girls, as it’s so important for them to realise that there are no boundaries, we are all equal. Thx for reading x

  6. February 25, 2017 / 10:31 am

    Such a truly beautiful post. Equality is so important, I feel grateful that despite the flaws of our current world so many people are willing to stand up and be counted. I hope that by the time our girls are older the world will be different, but if it isn’t I hope that they stand up and be counted. I hope the fight for freedoms for other women, who are less lucky than they are. Thank you so much for sharing such a thought provoking post with us at #PostsFromTheHeart

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      February 25, 2017 / 3:55 pm

      Thank you for your lovely positive comment. I wholeheartedly agree – equality is key, and we’ve come so far, with so many fighting for our girls to feel as valued as our boys. Just have to hope that the fighting continues and we go forwards, not backwards. x

  7. March 6, 2017 / 4:10 pm

    This is such a lovely and strong post. I am a mom to a son, but this is something I would definitely tell my daughter too…
    #GlobalBlogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 6, 2017 / 5:08 pm

      Thanks Nicole – I felt it was so important to write with all the changes that are going on in the world. Thx for commenting #globalblogging

  8. March 7, 2017 / 8:27 am

    This is just beautiful and so heartfelt. Thanks for sharing with #globalblogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 7, 2017 / 2:32 pm

      Thank you, I just had to write it after hearing Michelle Obama’s impassioned speech about how important and valued our girls are. It’s so important to remind them especially with everything that’s going on in the world right now. Thx for your lovely comment x #globalblogging

  9. Eva
    March 9, 2017 / 7:49 pm

    Great read. I still have a little time to think about this as my baby girl ia 9 months old only, but looking at the process, I will still have some explaining to do in a few years. Unfortunately. #globalblogging

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 9, 2017 / 11:33 pm

      Thank you for reading and commenting. Our girls are all so valuable and special. #globalblogging x

  10. March 10, 2017 / 1:46 am

    Sigh, we will never stop worrying will we… I love your analogy to Vector and Hans… I have 2 very strong minded daughters, for that I am grateful! A beautiful post! Thank you for sharing with us Susie. That picture of them all cuddled up and peaceful makes our hearts sing, doesn’t it! #globalblogging

  11. March 13, 2017 / 11:42 am

    This is a beautiful letter. I also watched the video of Michelle Obama. In tears! She is such a kick-ass lady! I miss her!

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      March 13, 2017 / 11:47 am

      I’m hoping she’ll appear again in some form in US politics – wouldn’t that be wonderful – such a great role model. thx for reading and commenting x

  12. June 8, 2017 / 6:05 pm

    This is a lovely post. I am so thankful I live in the Uk where women are respected as equals. It is not the same where my in laws live (Turkey) unfortunately and one reason I would never choose to live there. #ablogginggoodtime

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      June 12, 2017 / 9:35 am

      Things have moved on so much in this country and hopefully they will continue to do so, so there are no barriers between the sexes at all. Must be hard for women in countries like Turkey, and sometimes we can take it for granted that we have moved forward so much. Thx for your thoughtful comment x

  13. June 8, 2017 / 7:42 pm

    YES! This made me cry and then I got pissed off! That’s not the best combo before going to the grocery store. But seriously, as the mother of two girls…I AM WITH YOU!!!!

    #ablogginggoodtime

  14. Mom Of Two Little Girls
    June 11, 2017 / 8:56 am

    Beautiful! Our girls will rule the world when their time comes.
    #ablogginggoodtime

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      June 12, 2017 / 8:46 am

      I sure hope so – just hope they realise how awesome they all are. Thx for commenting xx

  15. July 6, 2017 / 2:52 pm

    Beautiful post. I’m a boy mum, but I’m determined that they will agree with this post one day to!

    • Susie | So Happy In Town
      July 7, 2017 / 4:15 pm

      Thank you Hayley. I’m sure you’ll bring your boys up to agree with our girls being completely equal in every way. Thx for reading x

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